Friends, metamours and other non-lovers

There are many more people involved in a polyamorous set-up than you might think. Many people can view polyamory just in terms of the romantic and/or sexual relationships that you have - What, like, two girlfriends? - but it is actually so much more than that. Everyone focuses on their lovers, but what about the... Continue Reading →

Poly means many, amor means love

Everyone knows what love is. That warm feeling you get simply because another person exists. The joy you get from having that person around. Pretty much everyone knows what romantic love feels like too. That person you feel unbelievably happy to be around and also extremely sad to be parted from. A person whose happiness... Continue Reading →

How does polyamory work day-to-day?

If you've been keeping up with all the Poly Means Many posts so far, by now you'll have a pretty good idea of how non-monogamous relationships work in theory. But we all know that putting a theory into practise can be tricky, especially where relationships are concerned! After all, people rarely do what we expect... Continue Reading →

Who needs relationship rules and boundaries?

When I was monogamous, I rarely thought about rules within relationships. Other than the standard 'no cheating' which is pretty much a given for monogamous relationships - although definitions of cheating may vary - I was happy to go with the flow. Boundaries shifted as each relationship progressed, and much of this was unspoken. However,... Continue Reading →

Deciphering the panic

I have been thinking about polyamory for a while now. However, I don't mean in the context of my blog posts on the subject. I have been thinking of polyamory and what it means to me personally. For almost a year now, I have had one relationship. Last December I wrote about how I could... Continue Reading →

Relationships: Public vs private

Speaking openly about being in a non-traditional relationship is a tricky thing. On the one hand, I want other people to understand that, while it may not be for everyone, it works well for us and is not really all that strange. On the other hand, I value my privacy and don't want to upset... Continue Reading →

What do I want? What do I need?

As with many topics relating to non-monogamous relationships, this one also applies to monogamous ones. It's just that complicated relationship structures usually involve much more... of everything. More needs, more wants, and more problems arising from unmet or unidentified needs/wants. Everyone should take time to look at what they want and/or need from their relationship(s)... Continue Reading →

On sex and relationships…

There are many aspects of sex and relationships that I have already written about in my weekly column for BitchBuzz, and so I thought it might be worth linking to a few of my favourites here. If there's anything else you'd like me to cover, please let me know. I always like to choose topics... Continue Reading →

Don’t you ever get jealous?

When faced with the concept of consensual non-monogamy for the very first time, many people struggle to understand it. If all you've known is monogamy, talking to someone who says they don't abide by the same relationship runes as you do - the ones you assumed all the rest of the world followed too -... Continue Reading →

Poly Means Many: Series summary

UPDATE: This entry was intended to be a way to summarise all the posts written as part of the Poly Means Many blogging project. However, it is no longer being updated each month with a new polyamory-related topic because the summary has now moved to its own domain. For further updates, please visit polymeansmany.com February... Continue Reading →

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