A few conversations I've had in the last couple of months have made me realise that it's been a while since I last wrote about my relationship(s), or discussed the topic with anyone I'm not already close to. Friends and long-time readers of this blog will already know that I'm not straight and I'm not... Continue Reading →
Life, the Universe and Everything: Regrets
I know that you shouldn't regret anything in life. We all make mistakes from time to time, but then we learn from them which is how we grow emotionally. If that one awful thing hadn't happened, it wouldn't have led to those other much better things. If it hadn't been for some of those decisions... Continue Reading →
Recipe for a fun festive season
As we enter the festive season, designed to bring cheer to the dark days of winter, I thought I would share my recipe for the perfect secular Christmas. NOTE: All quantities can be adjusted to taste, and substitutions can be made wherever specific ingredients cannot be located. Enjoy! Preparation Begin the festive season by giving... Continue Reading →
How to cope with jealousy in relationships
Everyone feels jealous to some degree at many times in their life. You may have been jealous of the kid in your class who was academic, sporty and popular. Or perhaps the person at work who always seems to get everything right and is up for promotion. More likely is that you're jealous of that... Continue Reading →
Feminism Friday: because patriarchy
A couple of things happened this week that made me think about patriarchy and feminism. Wikipedia describes patriarchy as "a social system in which the male is the primary authority figure central to social organization and the central roles of political leadership, moral authority, and control of property, and where fathers hold authority over women... Continue Reading →
Irreverent Dance do Pride
Back in May, I received an email from the diversity officer at work about what we could do to celebrate this year's Pride Festival. I clicked the link and browsed the events on offer, but one thing stood out to me about everything else... you could apply to be an official walking group in the... Continue Reading →
Does poly have to mean ‘many’?
Once a month, for the last 15 months, I have been writing about various aspects of polyamory for a blogging project I set up called Poly Means Many. But, although poly means many, that doesn't necessarily mean that all polyamorous people have many partners. After all, if you're single, you don't stop being straight. If... Continue Reading →
Relationships, bad stuff and blame
In every relationship, much as we hate to admit it, there is bad stuff as well as good. There are times when you are feeling so sad you want to cry, so angry you want to scream, and so frustrated that you want to smash things. Whether it's an argument or a break up, bad... Continue Reading →
Feminism Friday: Media, research and poly
Earlier this afternoon, I was alerted to an article on the BBC News website entitled Philpott fire deaths trial shines light on polyamory. This dreadfully biased piece not only confuses polyamory with polygamy, but it also references some research on the latter by Dr Thom Brooks of Durham University. Dr Brooks is quoted in the... Continue Reading →
Relationships: Finding what’s right for you
Did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? Most kids have an idea of what they think their grown up life would look like and usually it's all pretty straightforward, based on what they know about grown up life so far. They've seen that some adults have jobs as things like... Continue Reading →