There are many more people involved in a polyamorous set-up than you might think. Many people can view polyamory just in terms of the romantic and/or sexual relationships that you have - What, like, two girlfriends? - but it is actually so much more than that. Everyone focuses on their lovers, but what about the... Continue Reading →
Everyone knows what love is. That warm feeling you get simply because another person exists. The joy you get from having that person around. Pretty much everyone knows what romantic love feels like too. That person you feel unbelievably happy to be around and also extremely sad to be parted from. A person whose happiness... Continue Reading →
If you've been keeping up with all the Poly Means Many posts so far, by now you'll have a pretty good idea of how non-monogamous relationships work in theory. But we all know that putting a theory into practise can be tricky, especially where relationships are concerned! After all, people rarely do what we expect... Continue Reading →
When I was monogamous, I rarely thought about rules within relationships. Other than the standard 'no cheating' which is pretty much a given for monogamous relationships - although definitions of cheating may vary - I was happy to go with the flow. Boundaries shifted as each relationship progressed, and much of this was unspoken. However,... Continue Reading →
As with many topics relating to non-monogamous relationships, this one also applies to monogamous ones. It's just that complicated relationship structures usually involve much more... of everything. More needs, more wants, and more problems arising from unmet or unidentified needs/wants. Everyone should take time to look at what they want and/or need from their relationship(s)... Continue Reading →
When faced with the concept of consensual non-monogamy for the very first time, many people struggle to understand it. If all you've known is monogamy, talking to someone who says they don't abide by the same relationship runes as you do - the ones you assumed all the rest of the world followed too -... Continue Reading →
UPDATE: This entry was intended to be a way to summarise all the posts written as part of the Poly Means Many blogging project. However, it is no longer being updated each month with a new polyamory-related topic because the summary has now moved to its own domain. For further updates, please visit polymeansmany.com February... Continue Reading →
If you ever have to explain polyamory to family or friends who have never come across the idea that there's an alternative to monogamy, how do you do it? More importantly, how do you explain things if it's your own relationship(s) you're talking about? Personally, I have no idea! I can tell you how not... Continue Reading →
It's great when casual discussions lead to exciting new projects. Ethical non-monogamy in its many forms is a topic of conversation that comes up a lot between some of my friends, and it's always interesting hearing other people's opinions on the same aspect of this. We all have different labels, tastes in people and activities,... Continue Reading →