A few conversations I've had in the last couple of months have made me realise that it's been a while since I last wrote about my relationship(s), or discussed the topic with anyone I'm not already close to. Friends and long-time readers of this blog will already know that I'm not straight and I'm not... Continue Reading →
Everyone feels jealous to some degree at many times in their life. You may have been jealous of the kid in your class who was academic, sporty and popular. Or perhaps the person at work who always seems to get everything right and is up for promotion. More likely is that you're jealous of that... Continue Reading →
Monogamy. A great topic for a stand-up comedy show, don't you think? Rosie Wilby certainly thinks so, as that's what prompted her to create "Is Monogamy Dead?", a show about relationships, sex and infidelity. Not only is it based on observation and anecdotes, but there's also some actual survey data in there... plus, Rosie once... Continue Reading →
A couple of things happened this week that made me think about patriarchy and feminism. Wikipedia describes patriarchy as "a social system in which the male is the primary authority figure central to social organization and the central roles of political leadership, moral authority, and control of property, and where fathers hold authority over women... Continue Reading →
In every relationship, much as we hate to admit it, there is bad stuff as well as good. There are times when you are feeling so sad you want to cry, so angry you want to scream, and so frustrated that you want to smash things. Whether it's an argument or a break up, bad... Continue Reading →
Earlier this afternoon, I was alerted to an article on the BBC News website entitled Philpott fire deaths trial shines light on polyamory. This dreadfully biased piece not only confuses polyamory with polygamy, but it also references some research on the latter by Dr Thom Brooks of Durham University. Dr Brooks is quoted in the... Continue Reading →
Did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? Most kids have an idea of what they think their grown up life would look like and usually it's all pretty straightforward, based on what they know about grown up life so far. They've seen that some adults have jobs as things like... Continue Reading →
Effective communication in relationships is a tricky business. How do you know what to say and when? Is that little thing important, will they take offence and... should I just say it anyway? It can be tricky to get the right balance, but the more you talk (and listen!) the easier it becomes. However, the... Continue Reading →
Do you remember what it feels like embark on a new romantic and/or sexual relationship? That wonderfully blissful high where your new partner can do no wrong, you just can't wait to see them again, and you really don't think you could be any happier? Your heart overflows with joy and it's almost impossible to... Continue Reading →
One of the common misconceptions about nonmonogamous (including polyamorous) folk, is that they can't commit. If they really loved someone, they'd stop all this nonsense. If we were really committed to a relationship, we simply wouldn't have others. And, of course, you can't possibly be committed to more than one person at a time, right?... Continue Reading →