Poly means many, amor means love

Everyone knows what love is. That warm feeling you get simply because another person exists. The joy you get from having that person around. Pretty much everyone knows what romantic love feels like too. That person you feel unbelievably happy to be around and also extremely sad to be parted from. A person whose happiness... Continue Reading →

On sex and relationships…

There are many aspects of sex and relationships that I have already written about in my weekly column for BitchBuzz, and so I thought it might be worth linking to a few of my favourites here. If there's anything else you'd like me to cover, please let me know. I always like to choose topics... Continue Reading →

Fall in love with yourself on V-Day

I've mentioned before that lingerie should be primarily purchased with the needs of the wearer in mind, rather than anyone who might have the pleasure of viewing it, and I figured this was probably worth mentioning again as it's Valentine's Day again. There will be much skimpy frilly joy being wafted around retail outlets with... Continue Reading →

Poly means many

It's been a few years since my primary partner and I decided to dip our toes into the waters of polyamory. We've pretty much been non-monogamous from the start, and ethical about it too, but the decision to open ourselves up to additional loving relationships was a tough one even though it was the logical... Continue Reading →

On open relationships…

If you say that you are in an open relationship, the chances of being misunderstood are quite high. Some folk think you're cheating, are being forced into doing something you don't want by a more lascivious partner, or are doing it simply to fix a broken relationship. Sometimes those things can be true, but the... Continue Reading →

Time to heal

You know I said last week that things weren't bad? Well, that all changed. I've entered a new week with a bit of confusion, a lot of hurt feelings and fewer relationships. After all that talk about how it's possible to get through the tough times, I realised that sometimes it just isn't going to... Continue Reading →

On secondary relationships…

I currently have two partners, but describing these relationships to others can often be tricky. It seems logical to call the person I have lived with for over a decade my primary partner, but the accompanying term that I might use to describe the person I have been with since the start of the year,... Continue Reading →


It's Valentine's Day today and, for reasons I won't go into here, I'm not a happy bunny. My black mood isn't related to the day itself though (other than the fact it's a Monday), but I can see why some people detest the commercial love-fest that is 14th February. The shops are full of over-priced... Continue Reading →

I love London

Four years ago, when we were preparing to move to London, I was utterly convinced that it would never feel like home. After almost a decade in Manchester (on and off), I thought that London was too big, too unfriendly and certainly too expensive for me. Friends told me I'd love it, but I insisted... Continue Reading →

Here’s to friends!

I was chatting with a friend last week who was complimenting me on my burlesque performance work. I was preparing a less structured piece for an event he was running at the weekend and he was very excited about it, telling me that he'd loved my last two burlesque acts and that I should try... Continue Reading →

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