Years ago when I first started reading around this subject, I spent a lot of time wondering what made me like this. I like to overthink a subject. BDSM in mainstream fiction is pretty much exclusively portrayed as a sickness from which the poor deviant must be cured, and recently Fifty Shades has broadcast that... Continue Reading →
I don't doubt that there are some couples who live the lifestyle 24/7, but we have never minded the practicalities of life getting in the way. We had a few years of BDSM being a huge part of our lives, and now we're just what Sir calls Suburban Kinksters, with a box of toys under... Continue Reading →
I bought a book. It was a sort of beginners guide to being a bit kinky. Reading it helped things to slot into place, but it was no use to me knowing all this and having no one to try it out with. An online friend told me she had shared this same stuff with... Continue Reading →
Do you have a kinky side? Many people think they're not kinky but, when they look more closely at a few things that seem perfectly commonplace in the bedroom, sometimes it becomes obvious that there is another aspect of their relationship which could be explored further. And these explorations can really add spice to your... Continue Reading →
Ever since I was a little girl, I've had erotic fantasies in which I was captured and tied up, and been subjected to various indignities, often involving scanty outfits. I tried to play these games with little boys that I knew, but they just didn't get it. Eventually I figured out I should stop sharing... Continue Reading →
This week, you may have noticed me tweeting a link to a video of last month's Rarely Wears Lipstick Awards ceremony. Let me take a moment now to introduce the woman behind the camera. Miss Ana Morphic is a creative videographer with a naughty edge. One of the Barelesque Minxes, she has videoed enough complicated... Continue Reading →
I had largely let the whole 50 Shades phenomenon pass by the periphery of my vision until a friend directed me, with some coercion, to the plot summary; an eye-rolling teenage fantasy that bore a more than comfortable resemblance to some formative experiences of mine. Overall, I quite liked this book. It cost me less... Continue Reading →
With the help of the lovely ladies at Lovehoney, I have begun to discover that there is a sex toy for every bit of fun you can think of, and a whole load more that you can't. Each week I shall look at a different category of sex toys but, like my last A-to-Z, they... Continue Reading →
There are many aspects of sex and relationships that I have already written about in my weekly column for BitchBuzz, and so I thought it might be worth linking to a few of my favourites here. If there's anything else you'd like me to cover, please let me know. I always like to choose topics... Continue Reading →
Everyone has their own quirks. Their own particular ways of doing something. From casual to obsessive, spontaneous to organised, our habits quite often define us. Once we've found a specific way of doing something that we like, it's fun to explore it further and find other people who agree with our way of thinking. This... Continue Reading →