Hello darlings! Hoping this little blog post finds you feeling absolutely joyous and gentle at the same time. So much has been going on in the world, my world and, therefore no doubt, your world. I hope things feel positive even when they feel dark, that your focus is on fabulous 'you' in times of... Continue Reading →
In every relationship, much as we hate to admit it, there is bad stuff as well as good. There are times when you are feeling so sad you want to cry, so angry you want to scream, and so frustrated that you want to smash things. Whether it's an argument or a break up, bad... Continue Reading →
The Beast With Two... Everythings! How to avoid becoming a "We" Monster. We've all been caught up in the whirlwind of emotion when we start dating a new partner. They are endlessly fascinating and endearing. Every spare moment is dedicated to thinking about the texture of their skin, the way they look when they're concentrating,... Continue Reading →
You might think that polyamory is amazing all of the time but, sadly, you'd be wrong. As with other types of relationship, there are bad times as well as good. As far as I'm concerned, the good times more than make up for the bad, but it would be remiss of me to never mention... Continue Reading →
There are many things we are brought up to believe in by society and our well-meaning parents. When we are young, a life path spreads out before us - school, university, career, marriage, children - and there are constant pointers towards how to achieve what is expected of us. As we enter our teenage years,... Continue Reading →
I have been thinking about polyamory for a while now. However, I don't mean in the context of my blog posts on the subject. I have been thinking of polyamory and what it means to me personally. For almost a year now, I have had one relationship. Last December I wrote about how I could... Continue Reading →
As with many topics relating to non-monogamous relationships, this one also applies to monogamous ones. It's just that complicated relationship structures usually involve much more... of everything. More needs, more wants, and more problems arising from unmet or unidentified needs/wants. Everyone should take time to look at what they want and/or need from their relationship(s)... Continue Reading →
When faced with the concept of consensual non-monogamy for the very first time, many people struggle to understand it. If all you've known is monogamy, talking to someone who says they don't abide by the same relationship runes as you do - the ones you assumed all the rest of the world followed too -... Continue Reading →
Sometimes great things happen. House parties turn out to be far more awesome that you'd hoped they'd be, that cabaret show ends up being an absolute belter, and a few quiet drinks with friends somehow becomes the best night out you've had in a very long time. Years ago, this stuff happened and then you'd... Continue Reading →
If you say that you are in an open relationship, the chances of being misunderstood are quite high. Some folk think you're cheating, are being forced into doing something you don't want by a more lascivious partner, or are doing it simply to fix a broken relationship. Sometimes those things can be true, but the... Continue Reading →