Bi Visibility Day

As today is Bi Visibility Day, I thought I'd take the time to be a bit more visible and remind readers that a) bisexuals exist, and b) I'm one of them. As a woman in a long term committed relationship with a man, I am very often read as straight. When I joined the LGBTQ+... Continue Reading →

Clothing and queer identities

I recently attended a lecture by Professor Amy de la Haye on interpreting gender in the context of the museum, specifically when exhibiting fashion/clothing. The pre-reading was a chapter on female masculinities in the 1920s - in a book called Fashioning Sapphism: The Origins of a Modern English Lesbian Culture by Laura Doan - and... Continue Reading →

Mephedrone and the fake promise of sex

One minute scrolling profiles on Grindr and you will notice straightaway pictures of headless naked torsos with emblematic nicknames such as kinkyboy, sleazysessions and sex&chems. But is this contemporary world so sexually seedy when it comes to be turned into real life? Sometimes the reality is 'worse' than the promises, because today this compulsion to... Continue Reading →

Is Monogamy Dead?

Monogamy. A great topic for a stand-up comedy show, don't you think? Rosie Wilby certainly thinks so, as that's what prompted her to create "Is Monogamy Dead?", a show about relationships, sex and infidelity. Not only is it based on observation and anecdotes, but there's also some actual survey data in there... plus, Rosie once... Continue Reading →

Sexuality, coming out and labels

Yesterday, Olympic medal-winning diver Tom Daley told the world (via YouTube) that he is happily dating a man. I first read about this on the BBC news website and straight away pounced on the fact that, although Daley said he still fancied women, the article contained no mention of the word bisexual. I erroneously attributed... Continue Reading →

Ditch the Label

Ever had someone assume something about you because of the way you look or dress? Do others sometimes use the colour of your skin, your gender, sexuality or hobbies to pigeon hole you... or worse? If not, then you are very lucky indeed. Did you know that 69% of young people in the UK experience... Continue Reading →

Bisexuality: Myths and lazy journalism

Yesterday I had the misfortune of reading Daniel Warner's dreadful piece for the Huffington Post, entitled Bisexuality: Is It Fun, Non Committal or Just Plain Greedy? It contains so many bisexual myths and clichés that I started to wonder if the Huffington Post does any quality control whatsoever. Apparently, not only can bi people not... Continue Reading →

Bisexuality is not a phase

Dear Steven Moffat Whilst I appreciate your continued dedication to keeping one of my favourite television shows in its rightful place on BBC1 in the prime time Saturday night slot, there is something we really need to have words about. Two words, actually: a phase. To have a female character refer to an ex-girlfriend as... Continue Reading →

Identity, labels and belonging

A couple of things happened to me on Twitter (where else?) today that got me thinking. When I was younger, I knew that I liked girls but never realised that I liked them enough to be labelled bi. I thought there was some kind of rule that meant you weren't bi unless you'd been in... Continue Reading →

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