'I couldn't do it. I'm too jealous'. So ends most discussions I have about nonmonogamy. Like the pin that bursts the conversational balloon, bring up 'jealousy' and the chat comes to a grinding halt. I even, this morning, witnessed a young woman on Twitter say she's not ready for another (monogamous) relationship since she's too... Continue Reading →
You might think that polyamory is amazing all of the time but, sadly, you'd be wrong. As with other types of relationship, there are bad times as well as good. As far as I'm concerned, the good times more than make up for the bad, but it would be remiss of me to never mention... Continue Reading →
Over the weekend, Hella Walkington blogged about monogamy, polygamy and polyamory. She asked me to write a little bit for it and, I have to say, I was a bit surprised by her inclusion of the word polygamy. I have never met anyone who would describe themselves as polygamous, and wasn't even sure what it... Continue Reading →
When I dare to venture outside of the bubble I live in with my awesome open-minded friends - both on and offline - the amount of misogyny that crops up can be pretty baffling. We're living in the twenty-first century now, yet some of these people act like it's still 1950 and they don't even... Continue Reading →
There are many more people involved in a polyamorous set-up than you might think. Many people can view polyamory just in terms of the romantic and/or sexual relationships that you have - What, like, two girlfriends? - but it is actually so much more than that. Everyone focuses on their lovers, but what about the... Continue Reading →
There are many things we are brought up to believe in by society and our well-meaning parents. When we are young, a life path spreads out before us - school, university, career, marriage, children - and there are constant pointers towards how to achieve what is expected of us. As we enter our teenage years,... Continue Reading →
Everyone knows what love is. That warm feeling you get simply because another person exists. The joy you get from having that person around. Pretty much everyone knows what romantic love feels like too. That person you feel unbelievably happy to be around and also extremely sad to be parted from. A person whose happiness... Continue Reading →
If you've been keeping up with all the Poly Means Many posts so far, by now you'll have a pretty good idea of how non-monogamous relationships work in theory. But we all know that putting a theory into practise can be tricky, especially where relationships are concerned! After all, people rarely do what we expect... Continue Reading →
When I was monogamous, I rarely thought about rules within relationships. Other than the standard 'no cheating' which is pretty much a given for monogamous relationships - although definitions of cheating may vary - I was happy to go with the flow. Boundaries shifted as each relationship progressed, and much of this was unspoken. However,... Continue Reading →
I have been thinking about polyamory for a while now. However, I don't mean in the context of my blog posts on the subject. I have been thinking of polyamory and what it means to me personally. For almost a year now, I have had one relationship. Last December I wrote about how I could... Continue Reading →