With the help of the lovely ladies at Lovehoney, I have begun to discover that there is a sex toy for every bit of fun you can think of, and a whole load more that you can’t. Each week I shall look at a different category of sex toys but, like my last A-to-Z, they won’t always be quite what you think. As you might imagine, all links are NSFW!
As more people than ever are now realising, there can be much pleasure in pain. It’s not all about the whips and chains that Rihanna sings about, you don’t even have to dress the part if you don’t want to, and it doesn’t even need to be part of a big ‘scene’. If you’ve ever enjoyed hair-pulling, nipple tweaking or rough sex, then you’ve already dipped a toe into the shallow end of the ocean that is BDSM. It’s not for everyone, but many people do find something to like… especially when it comes to the endorphin rush that pain can provide.
There many ways to create pain – temperature (e.g. hot wax), impact (e.g. paddles and floggers), pinching and electricity. The points on a pinwheel can tickle or inflict pain depending on the level of pressure, but additional delight also comes from not knowing which a partner is going to provide next. However, if you’ve already decided that you really like pain and are after something with a bit more impact, then something like the Jack Boot Print Wooden Spanking Paddle is probably more your thing!
Lovehoney have a great beginners’ guide for those of you who have never tried this sort of play before and, if you can wait until next month, you can get your hands on the official Fifty Shades toys from their site too. Even if you don’t like (or haven’t read) the book, you’ll probably agree that the crop, paddle and flogger in that range look far less tacky than most other implements at the try-it-and-see end of the price range. The last thing you want when you’re not sure if pain is for you, is to feel it in your wallet more than anywhere else!