Speaking openly about being in a non-traditional relationship is a tricky thing. On the one hand, I want other people to understand that, while it may not be for everyone, it works well for us and is not really all that strange. On the other hand, I value my privacy and don’t want to upset people I am close to.
Last year I spoke to journalist Arianne Cohen about my experiences of being in an open relationship, and my partner and metamour kindly agreed to be photographed with me for the piece. It helped that Arianne was writing for the Guardian. It helped that she is in an open relationship herself. That didn’t stop me being somewhat anxious today, wondering what would be published from our telephone chat. Thankfully, the Guardian has said that we’re making it work, even though they have printed a bit more detail than I would have liked.
If the subject of non-monogamous relationships is of interest, you might want to check out some of my blog posts on polyamory – including a group blogging project I started called Poly Means Many – pieces that I have written on non-monogamy and polyamory for BitchBuzz, and an interview I did with The High Tea Cast where I talk about how non-monogamy works for me. Hopefully, the more information that is put out there regarding different relationship structures, the more people will realise that nothing is ‘normal’. Relationships are supposed to make us happy, so we owe it to ourselves to create one (or more) that is right for us.