Honesty may be the best policy when it comes to relationships, at least as far as I’m concerned, but it’s also a pretty important component of sex. Right from the moment we find ourselves sexually attracted to someone, dishonesty can cause all sorts of problems if it’s left to seep in. We need to be honest about who we’re attracted to and whether or not we plan on acting on our impulses. We need to be honest about contraception choices, our sexual history and whether or not we’ve been tested. Once we’ve hooked up with someone, we also need to remember that our sexual partners are not mind-readers and so we need to remember to tell them what we like and dislike sexually. This doesn’t always have to be verbal, but some form of honest communication certainly helps when perfecting that extra special form of physical fun.
The Alternative A-to-Z of Sex: Honesty
As well as honesty regarding orgasms and what does/doesn’t work for you, it helps to be honest about the ridiculous stuff that happens because, after all, sex isn’t always serious. If you can’t laugh off those embarrassing noises then you’ll never relax enough to give yourself over to enjoying really great orgasms. Sex is hot, messy, silly, frantic, sensual, noisy and often really rather hilarious. It’s often at its most perfect when it’s imperfect. So, in order to fully enjoy sex, we need to be honest both with ourselves and each other.
I think this article is spot on. Honesty about what you want, honesty about what you need, honesty about what turns you on and what gets you off; the sooner and more effectively you can communicate those things to a sexual partner the more likely you are to have truly enjoyable and fulfilling intimate experiences together. Far from taking the spontaneity or mystery out of sex it provides the foundation, leaving no uncertainty of intention, to make each person involved comfortable and confident to openly explore their limits and heights of sexual pleasure. You're quite right that it doesn't always have to be purely verbal communication either, it can be a greatly fun part of the whole seduction process as well.
Thanks. I think you're right about honesty and spontaneity not being mutually exclusive 🙂