A key element to mind-blowing sex is desire. When you first hook up with someone new, this is a driving force and provides a passion that is addictive and unmistakable. You yearn to be with together and are constantly thinking of what you’re going to be doing when you next see each other in private. However, when you have been with a partner for a while, the desire can come and go. Sometimes it rages, and other times it fades quietly into the background. If this sounds familiar, don’t worry as it’s perfectly natural and happens to everyone. First of all, talk to your partner and see if they feel the same way. If so, there are many ways to rekindle the flame that once burned so bright. Planning date nights and making time for each other is a good start. If the lack of desire is uneven, this can be more of a problem so communication is vital. Talk about what you want and need, what you love about them, why you want things to work out. It should become clear from this if desire can be restored. Sometimes it’s just waiting in the wings.
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