But, honestly

Ohhh a big blank empty space, just for me to scribble in.

Write me a guest post, she said.

It can be about anything you want, she said.



That’s very liberating. Very liberating indeed.

Especially if I was to ask to remain anonymous… (which I didn’t, as you’ve probably already figured out).

If I were anonymous I could say anything at all, lay open my deepest darkest secrets without fear of consequence. I could say what I REALLY think about her, and him, and those two, and that lot, and everyone else who has ever wronged me. Or righted me.

But what would I do then? Who would I be? Just another random, anonymous [insert current politically correct term for ‘nutjob’] spouting forth views and thoughts from my own mind, based on my own skewed perceptions.

Yes, it’s much harder to be truly honest if you are accountable. Even if it’s only to yourself (the hardest honesty of all).

So, dear reader, if you could be truly honest, what would you be revealing of yourself?

“Honesty, such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue.. “so sang Billy Joel (who cheated on two wives so I guess he knew what he was talking about).

For me, honesty is a word that has changed my life substantially over the past couple of years, sometimes painfully but ultimately for the best. it has left me divorced but happier than I’ve been in a long time (my ex-wife feels the same, there is no bitterness, just some sadness it didn’t work).

When I was asked to write a guest post for this here blog I swithered and swayed as to what to write about? I pondered writing up my views on feminism, on the ageing idiots that foam at the mouth whilst calling themselves politicians, I even thought about tackling a really deep and meaty issue, you know, red sauce or brown sauce?

But, to be honest, I’d rather not. All of those things are worthy of time and consideration by everyone (some more than others, admittedly), but if there was one thing that I’d suggest everyone needs to start doing more of, it would have to be “be honest”.

Being honest isn’t easy, often painful, but if handled with compassion and understanding (on both sides), some remarkable things can happen.

And the hardest part? Being honest with yourself.

This post was written by a RWL Guest Blogger – Gordon McLean is a man with a blog. Perhaps unsurprisingly, you can read more of his writing over at one man blogs.

Image via kxlly‘s Flickr photostream.

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